Dominatrix

In BDSM or sado-masochistic sexual activities, a dominatrix refers to a woman who plays a commanding role in activities involving bondage, discipline, domination and submission. The dominatrix is addressed as Mistress or Ma’am by the male in submission. The male counterpart of the dominatrix is master.

Typically dominatrix describes a professional woman who is paid to indulge in dominant treatment of submissive clients for sexual gratification. Reality, however differs with a dominatrix mostly being lifestyle dominant instead of professional. She is likely to be assertive and the controlling factor in a relationship both sexually as well as in public life.

Other words used for women who participate in female domination for recreation, are Domes, Dominatrices or Dominants. The one that is seldom used is Dominatrixes. A substantial majority of dominatrices are lifestyle dominants while there are many who assume the dominatrix role for the sole purpose of the lucrative price it commands. The going rates can fluctuate according to circumstances including geographic location, experience, skill, popularity, desired activities and outward appeal.

The highest rates are commanded by dominatrixes who have made their mark in female domination videos and are more in demand. In the United States, fees are usually in the $100 to 350 per hour bracket, which is equivalent to the fees charged by attorneys. Barbara Asher is a case in point. The overpowering dominatrix from Boston enjoys a large fan following. Professional dominatrixes prefer not to think of themselves as prostitutes. The slogan ‘domination is not prostitution’ is extensively sported by websites featuring professional dominatrixes.

The difference between professional dominatrixes and other sex workers is that while the former can be in all shapes, sizes and ages, sex workers are generally young and slender. Professional dominatrixes are much heavier with ages as advanced as 40s, 50s and even 60s. Certain exceptions aside, the well-known dominatrices are mostly professional dominants thanks to sex lives of people being kept private.