Going all the way or having sex for the very first time can be cause for great anxiety. Concerns regarding how you look without your clothes and whether it’s going to be private enough are very common. A certain degree of concern maybe inevitable but with proper communication a lot of the embarrassment and worries can be eliminated.

It may not be enough to merely think you are ready for it. You need to be sure that you are. The difference isn’t easy to distinguish. You may be getting signals from your body, which are contradicted by the way your heart and mind feel about them. It’s important that you know and trust your partner not to mention yourself, as you can’t undo it once you have sex. So be sure, smart and ready if there are to be no regrets.

Before having sex go through these steps:

Prepare for the occasion by talking it out with your partner well in advance so that both of you can be sure you are ready. If doubts persist, abandon plans, as it is perfectly normal to abstain in a relationship. Birth control is a subject that needs proper awareness regarding options for birth control methods. If possible talk to out with a family member or friend who has already been through the experience.

Irrespective of all other birth control measures and whatever your partner would have you believe about past sexual history, a condom is an absolute must. It is also advisable to make sure you aren’t drunk, under the influence of drugs or incapable of making proper decisions and make sure the same applies to your partner.

Another thing to be certain about is that you care for your partner and that the only reason you are going to do it, is only because of your feelings. Vague reasons like being cooler, being accepted and losing virginity don’t count. Pick a place that is comfortable, private, quite and if possible, pleasant. There should be no possibility of interruption.

Ignore feelings of nervousness and try to relax by taking a deep breath. Take your time with kissing and fondling, also known as foreplay. Indulge in it as much as possible.

Speak soothingly and be gentle, considerate and affectionate. It’s better to speak about everything you are about to do. Never for even a moment ignore anything your partner says. Both of you have the right to stop at any point whatsoever the reason.

Undress each other slowly being alert to body language of the other person. Any sign of hesitation calls for a pause or slowing down. Kiss and get comfortable while letting your instincts, reason and responses from your partner dictate your movements and pace.

It’s supposed to be an enjoyable experience so take your time and let your bodies get acquainted with each other. Everybody gets a first time only once so don’t blow it.

When you get to the intercourse or penetration, be sure once again that both of you still want to go all the way. Sex is not some kind of a love test but just a means of expressing love.

Let your instincts and your heart guides your movements. It is important that you are comfortable and at ease before physically performing the intercourse and doing what comes naturally.

Most unfortunately being labeled a tease is considered as bad as being easy. More than anything else they merely indicate the lack of maturity that most teens have towards sex. Sex isn’t at all to do with other people’s impression of you but your own impression of yourself. It is you who will have to live with your body so you get to decide what and when you want to do with it. Saying no is not a crime and if the voice within you demands it, go ahead and refuse.